What do i do if i want to call my stepmom mom but my real mom doesn't like it but i love my stepmom like mymom

your real mom needs to accept the fact that you have two families now and that it is hard enough for you to adjust to that. reure her that she always has a special part of your life considering she's the one who raised you and gave birth to you and your stepmom did not do these things. However explain to her that she needs to respect the relationship you have with your stepmom because you love your dad and your new family he has.